You are not strong enough

I want you to recall a moment in your life when you walked through a very tough season. You know… the kind of season when everything seemed to be falling apart.

Mentally, you felt like you were going through a breakdown. Physically, your whole body ached and your spirit was off.

A time when you felt alone, stuck and lost.

Now, think about how you reacted to things and people during that season.

Wait, let me guess... you were irritable, very defensive, you were the victim of everyone and everything. Nothing was your fault, it was always others'.

Yet, when anyone asked how you were doing, the answer was always the same… "am fine thanks".

You lied through your teeth. You were miserable!

Call me out if I’m lying?!

You know why I know all these? Because I've been there…

• I've been 'fine', when I really wasn't.

• I've been happy and smiling, when all I wanted to do was lie down and cry.

• I've blamed everyone else for my issues, when I'm the only one who was responsible for them.

• I've held grudges against people who didn't even know I had a grudge against them.

• I've not asked for help because… 'I didn't need anyone to help me'.

Vulnerability is strength

You’ll have to come to a point where you’ll have to learn to embrace vulnerability.

Walking around, acting fine, pretending to have everything figured out, is lying to yourself.

You have to accept that things are not fine, you're struggling, you feel stuck. You have to understand that it's no one's responsibility but yours, to change your life. No one can make the changes you want to make in your life but you. Yes, they can help, but the heavy lifting is ultimately your job.

And the more you delay coming to this realisation, the longer you stay in your struggle and delay your healing.

There’s a butterfly effect here;

• the longer you delay your healing, the longer it'll take to reach the point of living the life you so dream of.

• the further your dream life seems, the less drive and motivation you’ll have to chase and achieve your goals.

The longer you keep lying to yourself that you don't need anything or anyone, the more stuck you’ll be.

Listen, friend, being strong is overrated!

You don't always have to be strong, you cannot always be strong. If you are, you’re living a lie!

If you truly wanted to, you could start healing and changing your life right now. All you’ve got to do is take the first step by being vulnerable.

The Healing

Be honest and vulnerable to yourself about your struggles.

Open up and ask for help from someone you trust, maybe a friend or a mental health professional.

Accept and embrace your feelings and feel them deeply.

Cry and cry and cry until you can't cry anymore.

Finally, lean on and allow God to give you the strength you need daily as you walk through healing.

Allow Him to do what He does best.

Love & light,

Christine

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